On the basis of Baker's theory of individualization，stemming from Beck's theory of individuality in“self-culture，self-reflexive，life-trajectory-conflict” conceptual framework，thus analyzes the self-structure rituals embodied by single youth elective view. The research process takes part of the young singles in Beijing as the research object，whose logical starting point is self-construction under the single “self-reflexive” life. After analyzing the trait of mate choice under the “self-culture”，the author attempt to find out the reasons in the life trajectory conflict of post-90s in the view of spouse choice.