In the process of doctoral education，the relationship between doctoral tutors and their students not only can trigger their common concerns，but also can directly affect the teaching practice and education quality of doctoral students. Based on several key problems affecting the relationship between doctoral tutors and their students，the connotation and characteristics of spiritual dialogue surviving in the tutors and students are analyzed，which manifested the mainstream concept and new direction of the doctoral graduate education value. Five aspects are focused on to build the relationship between doctoral tutors and their students manifesting the spiritual dialogue：center on cultivate scientific vision and academic rationality，consciously form the ecological ethics and educated improvement model，soul contract towards a shared vision and，transcendence and flip the traditional pattern of classroom education，tolerance and love which reach each other’s deep inside.