How a dispute should be resolved and how a dispute should be actually resolved are two different topics. The results of the disputes of the same nature among acquaintances，among strangers and between ourselves and the enemy are different. As a social analytical tool，the social structure of a case can be used to explore the route of dispute resolution from such aspects as the differences of social positions of the parties to the dispute and the degree of close and distant relationship. Under the historical condition in which the traditional society of acquaintances is continuously disintegrated，an extended society of acquaintances needs to be used to lay a realistic social foundation for dispute resolution，but if the dividing standard with the hostility of “we-they” and on which the resolution mechanism of adversarial disputes relies to function cannot be abolished，the future society will still be in a status of war between rationality and irrationality. The task of the reconciliation rationality is to determine an equal and free consultation rationality and negotiation rationality between the parties to the dispute，oppose regarding the party of the other side as an object which can be conquered，with which a dispute cooperation and its reconciliation culture is proposed.