As an important part of outstanding traditional culture， Jiangsu's outstanding family style and family instructions contains rich wisdom in setting down and getting on with one's pursuit. It is of great significance to enhance people's moral cultivation and promote the whole society to seek goodness. In order to promote the modern transformation of outstanding family traditions， we must first strengthen the collation and research of relevant literature on family style and family instructions， and on this basis， we must select outstanding family traditions with modern values. Then， we must re-processing and re-sublimation with modern language and ideas with these family style and family instructions which will make them practical for modern life and meet the needs of family education， self-cultivation， and personal behavior. In this process， the key is to solve the problem of who will inherit， what will inherit， and how to inherit. It is necessary to focus on constructing a collaborative system that involves multiple forces such as family， school， government， market， and media.